Finding Love with Relationships.

Mom and dad are in the kitchen roaming about with dad swigging down his last drop of coffee and mom tidying up after the kids have ate and rushed off to school. The two kiss each other as they rush out the door heading off to work. Mom heads one direction, dad goes another direction, and finally they both meet their destination.

At work, the hours go by and tasks are completed, but as mom sits at her desk, her mind begins to wonder. “What do I cook for supper?” she thinks. Her mind continues racing as she recalls the Parent Teachers Conference the following week. Mom now has to find time off work to join the meeting, and hopes that her children are doing well in school. When she arrives home, she cooks, cleans and finds time to relax after a busy schedule. Dad has already hit the couch watching the latest news, while the kids are in their room doing homework.

A common relationship is ongoing, and the next week mom makes the Parent Teacher Conference all to find that her children are failing in school. She thinks, “Have I encouraged my children enough?” Mom begins to blame her self, and when she arrives home anxious to talk with her husband, she finds him absence. Dad had to work late again to meet his deadlines, so she calls the office where dad works and dad is not answering the phone. Later that evening dad comes home. The kids are in bed and mom is sitting aimlessly staring into the space, when dad says, “Hi honey, how was your day?”

Mom frustrated and confused snaps, “How was your day.” Dad shoots her a curious look and says, “I am sorry honey, I had to work late again.” Mom shots back with a hint of anger, “Why didn’t you answer the phone when I called.” She walks up to her husband and smells a reek of alcohol on his breath. “You worked late, huh,” she stammers with a hint of “yea right.” Dad stares for a moment and says, “Ok, I did stop off for a few drinks at the local tavern, I was only there for an hour, I swear.” Mom stares haplessly at him for a moment and turns on her heals, storming out of the room.

What do you think will happen next? As we can see we have love and relationship, and a family arrangement, but something is missing to make this relationship stand. We can review the scenario together to see which elements needed to make this relationship solid. In the first scene, family arrangement is in tact since it takes two to work to make ends meet. Thus, the parents are readying for work, while the children are heading off to school. Mom has done her job in preparing breakfast, and kissing dad as he rushes off to work.

Mom has also attended the meeting, and adhered to her motherly and spouse duties, and has worked at her job. Would it help if dad helped her along in the kitchen and around the house, since mom has two jobs? Yes, it would help. Still, this is only one of the elements to make a relationship stand. Sharing is always a good thing in love and relationships. When two people share, it brings them together.

Mom has emotions that are instigating trouble, since she is blaming her self for her children’s failure, and shows those emotions when dad comes home with the reek of alcohol on her breath. Dad doing as he pleases, would not like it if the tables turned.

Obviously, mom is feeling frustrated and appears to take it out on dad, which makes him think or readers believe that mom is emotional. However, mom expressed her feelings with assertiveness and disagreement; still she stormed out of the room, leaving the conversation hanging in the air. We see a lack of communication in this family, since from the beginning of the story to the end; we did not hear communication between the children, mom or dad. We also need respect to make this relationship stand.

 

Extracts of Love and Relationships.

Several persons begin relationships out of desire, which is the opposite of aspiration. Once the relationship progresses and one tires of the other, they often drift worlds apart. These types of relationships are often harmful; since selfish motivation sparks, the relationship and thus the result only bring down the outlook of love and relationship. When a person has desire in mind while starting a relationship, it is almost guaranteed there will be other relationships outside of the relationship, and the other person will hurt since they are in love alone.

A trail of broken hearts follows behind these types of relationships. Thus, knowing who you are is the start that determines if you will find true love and relationship. If you are in contact with your emotions, personality, beliefs, standards, and so forth, thus you can touch the fine lines of love and relationship while remaining in love and in the relationship. Thus, lust, love and relationship have a separation that needs defined to make love last.

Desires are a mindful response to emotions triggered by appealing appetizers, and backed with impulses. Lust throughout the years has proven harmful, especially if the action acted out on lust has gain in mind, which focuses on sexual pleasures.

Nowadays, few people remain steadfast in love and relationships, while considering love in the context delivered from originality. Religion, politics, unfaithfulness, lust, and other influences often join man and woman together, yet still relationships fail.

Love behind the years has confirmed that respect, consideration and other elements of love are non-existing, and thus relationships often fail. When two people join in relationships and love they must adhere to the advice provided to them by the Law of God and not man. When couples step on boundaries and disregard true advice they often find them self-heading down the path to divorce and/or separation, thus, finding true love takes skill, patients, long-suffering, and other human mechanisms to make love last.

A good relationship is based on trust, love, and faith, self-control and sharing. When one partner is giving more than the other partner this is not love. When one partner trusts that his or her partner is faithful and the partner is out spreading it around like the plague then someone is going to get hurt.

Thus, in the present day of love and relationships, hurt often consumes relationships, thus divorce and/or separation result. Some relationships can withstand the weathers with one partner working, but all relationships take two to make it last. Thus, some men have a history of proving unfaithful, dishonest, deceitful, et cetera. At one time women were never heard of committing such acts as adultery, murder, or abusing the mate. Thus, nowadays women fed up with the ways many men have demonstrated throughout history, including engaging in adulterous affairs, and inappropriate materials, thus nowadays women are making a statement by acting out the same.

Women at one time worked at home raising the children and taking care of the household. Often the man would work, bringing home the bread and rarely did you hear reports of divorce or separation. Still they existed, but at present divorces and separation is an ongoing issue in society.

Nowadays, it is next to impossible to find pure love. Good men often find women that treat them ill, while bad men are mistreating women badly that their views of men diminish over time. Good women often find men that cheat, lie, or take them for granted, thus finding a good relationship nowadays is next to impossible.

Likewise, women at present are taking a stand, thus showing that low tolerance is in the making. The one surefire element that composes true love is long-suffering, thus men and women alike nowadays lack the ability to illustrate this ingredient that makes up love.

Different relationships in the world boil down to good or bad relationships. When two people join in intimate relations, both parties must work hard to make the relationship work. A bad relationship will utilize tools believing that the mechanisms will keep the spice in his or her life when they feel tired out of the mate. In other words, a bad relationship focuses on sexual gratification, which never occurs, since he or she tires out quickly. The person may engage in pornographic reading or viewing, promiscuous relationships, violence, and so forth to gratify the desire.

 

Entertainment and Media breaking down love and Relationships.

Media will argue when writers or protestors stand up and state what harm entertainment and media causes in love and relationships. While the source can argue the evidence and patterns trailing behind us proves them liars.

Entertainment today enforces sexuality and violence while breaking down the rules of honesty, trust, faithfulness, loyalty, self-control, et cetera. Couples today sit in front of television for hours, or listen to all types of music for hours instead of joining in family activities. Children today consume their time playing video games, listening to harmful music, and engaging in viewing of harmful television programs. While the media says we all have our own choices, it is difficult to make good choices when you turn on the television and nudity, violence, profanity, and other inhumane activities are going on, on every station turned.

Nowadays, television is beyond open. Many people will use the term open mind to get their way. Open-minded people will not engage in harmful viewing, behaviors, actions, sound, et cetera, rather this types of minds will utilize the tools that prevent them harm.

When couples spend hours watching harmful movies, listening to painful sounds, or else engaging in hours of video play they are not taking the time to live, learn and love.

Entertainment enforces behavior. If the entertainment is good then good results will come of the activity, or engaging. On the other hand, if entertainment is bad then harm will result. It may not appear obvious at the onset, but over the course of the relationship, the traces of harm will creep in and out of the cracks.

Examples of harm caused by inappropriate entertainment, which lead to the breakdown in relationships is visual in the following illustration: *A young mother joined in a relationship after giving birth to another child. The woman’s standards and belief was firm, while the husband’s degree of humane stooped to the level of today’s way of thinking. The mother traditional and submissive to the husband worked effortless to make the family arrangement work, while the children and husband joined in inhume viewing and behaviors of entertainments. Overtime the children became aggressive and acting out of violence each time rules were set in the household. The father inconsiderate and lacking the ability to love rarely helped the mother with discipline and control of the children’s behaviors, rather he enforced the wrongful conduct. Over time the woman after dishing out years of long-suffering, love, hope, et cetera fell into the charts of divorce when the husband committed adultery. The husband sold drugs, administered drugs, and solicited prostitution while encouraging the children to do the same. The children later appeared in court for criminal persecution, as well the husband landed in court facing charges against him. The family fell apart by divorce, lack of communication, inactive family participation, and harmful entertainment. While each family member came from broken homes, the mother had the wisdom (if only the others would listen) to make a productive relationship, while demonstrating true love.

As you can see, what you feed the mind comes out over time. The mind controls the body, including wellness, productivity, performance, et cetera. When the mind is fed garbage, it will gradually show in behaviors, case studies, patterns, habits, et cetera.

The term what you eat is who you, are, is not a joke. Rather it is a statement backed with evidence and truth. Likewise, what you put in the mind enforces what will come out over time. If you are spending hours on a couch watching movies, thus you are stating to your mate that the person is not interesting enough to move you to share time together. What is your mate doing that makes you feel this way? Sometimes a mate does nothing to enforce this negative reaction from the partner; rather it is their way of thinking, and their level of standards. When couples join to make love, they are joining to stand together through thickness and thin, better or worse, sickness and health until death says their love is no more.

This scenario is hypo-theorized since the content requested in this article is in original nature, thus quoting is not permitted. However, the story is illustrated from a real-life experience.

 

Enhance Your Toxic Relationship.

In any relationship, the most significant thing you can do is be honest and gain the trust of your mate. If the relationship is toxic, you might want to find the best solution that works for the both of you, but be honest while doing so. You first need to decide if the toxic relationship is suffering because of your own issues, including behaviors. People change; emotions change and when we get to a point of no return, we can often search inside ourselves to see if the problem in the relationship lies within ourselves. Relationships are based on trust and understanding one another. If you do not have trust and understanding, more than likely your relationship will turn toxic. This means you and your partner need to find a solution to deal with the problem, or get out. Plain and simple, you cannot have your cake and eat it too.

Laying the foundation in the beginning is the first step to a successful relationship. Foundations based on stability offer a rewarding, long-lasting relationship, while unstable foundations lead to breakups. Therapy is good, but if you can sit down and talk through your own problems this is the best solution and it will save you money. Talking is the mark of eliminating problems, while frustration comes from those who cannot form the skills to communicate.

Incompatibility can lead to breakup, thus weighing out your relationship vigilantly before beginning a relationship can prevent disaster. If you are already involved in a toxic relationship more than likely, you will need to evaluate the compatibilities. You do have the options of working through the incompatibilities or getting out.

Compatibility extends to family history. If you are suffering problems due to family quarrels, the ride gets strenuous. Families that tend to like the person their child is with, is less likely to give you problems. Toxic relationships are painful when families butt into your business frequently. Many persons who begin relationships and have been with their mate for sometime may find that neither party is compatible. The relationship can still work if the two of you communicate and comprise a plan that both can agree on. Read and learn the steps in good relationships by buying books that offer a good strategy for the incompatible couples.

Many times people commit to relationships with the idea that they can change the other person later. This is not good! Either you like whom you meet, or you do not. No one can change another human being, the person must have the desire to change him or her self, and the first step to change is acceptance and then willingness to make the changes.

One should be skeptical of those who vow to change for you. Often the promises are not met, or the person has “hidden terrors” that could be forced onto you later.

If you are a dreamer, you may look at your mate as a fantasy. This is not good either. You lose the benefits by not getting to know the person you have mated with or you wake up from your dream and find that you made a serious mistake.

The chief focus to keep in mind is to communication, spend quality time, stay focused, and lay a good foundation for your relationship; keep it honest and learn to trust one another, with unselfish motives.

Selfishness has lead to various problems, including adultery, murder, fornication, theft, and so forth. Thus, selfish is one of the leading causes of breakups in relationships and marriage.

As you can see, sharing plays a large part in love and relationships. When two people share, they are giving something to the other that leaves a lasting feeling of joy and love. Two people working together without selfishness often build a relationship on solid grounds, and often endure through tribulations, joyous moments, and so forth. Relationships built on solid grounds rarely fall apart when troubles come their way. Thus, enhance your toxic relationship, or get out!